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Saturday, August 13, 2011

Hope

Warning: Heavy Post Ahead.  If you are looking for something happy today, you may not want to read any further.  I feel I must share from my heart today and I will be asking for your prayers.

Hello dearest friends and readers.  Do you ever find your hand stretched outwards, reaching for something yet you do not know what that something is?  Your heart aches so bad that is actually hurts deep down to your soul?  I have a very dear friend that is desperately reaching right now and I don't know quite how to help her.  I hurt right along besides her and I so want her hurt to go away so that she can smile again.


My friend lost her husband right before Christmas last year.  His death was sudden and how he lost his life was tragic. She is desperately trying to sell her home before it goes to foreclosure and she is almost completely out of money.  She recently told me that she felt that she didn't have a purpose.  That cut me deeply.  Everyone has value and has a purpose and is made in the image and likeness of God, yet she still feels she has no purpose.  I am genuinely worried for her and haven't stopped praying for her.  I pray that when I am speaking with her that God's words and love will wash over her and that she will listen, hear, and feel the love of God.

I recently told a good friend of mine that I feel like I am running out of happy.  I don't know what more I can give my friend to make the hurt go away and so she can start healing.  I don't know what more I can do for her.  I don't know what more I can say to her. I am praying that God will work through me and I know and trust Him but it has been so hard for me seeing her go through this deep unhappiness, lonliness, and hopelessness.


It is so sad to watch someone deteroriate into hopelessness.  How does one keep getting up from a fall day after day?  How does one begin the healing process and start accepting their life without the one that they love beside them?  How does one accept change and growth?  How does one begin to see the light again?  And as her friend what more can I do?


I am asking you, dearest readers, to please pray for my friend as well as for myself.  I would very much love to see her become closer to the Lord and to smile again. 


I would ask you to please leave a comment below for her.  I ask you, even if you seldom leave a comment that you will consider leaving one today for her. I will be forwarding these messages to her so that she can feel HOPE again and FLY once more.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart,
Danielle

21 comments:

Cozy Little House said...

So much misery in this world. I'm so sorry for what you're going through.
Brenda

Petite Michelle Louise said...

i don't know what to say that would ease her pain except that i am thinking of her...praying for her...and sending her warm and healing thoughts. i don't know the depths of her pain having never felt that kind of loss before but my heart aches for her. She MUST know that her life has meaning and that she has a very special "purpose" ...one that only she was put here on this earth to fulfill.

Scrappy Pink Corner said...

I read these posts and watch the news and wonder, what is wrong with this world we live in. We are supposed to be helping each other and instead we kick each other when we are down. I wake up in the morning and always ask myself, what can I do today that can make me a better person. I try to always be positive and hopeful. I always tell my husband, the grass is not greener on the other side. We a re blessed with all that we have. Healthy children, we are healthy and he has a job to pay for the necessities in life. All I can tell you is to stay focused, continue praying and always be hopeful. Nothing is impossible. My MOM always tells me that God does not give you more than you can handle.
I will pray for you and your friend.

GARAGE SALE GAL ~ Deb's Earthly Delights said...

GOD KNOWS and He truly cares...when you are in the deepest place, just remeber He is the One that is with You and is carrying You..He hears.
Deb

Theresa said...

I am so sorry for your dear friend, Danielle. I will keep you both in my prayers so that she finds peace and in that peace she will be able to see her purpose once again. We have all been blessed with many gifts, some stand out more than others but we all have something to give to the world. I'm sure that her husband told her of the things that made her special, maybe she can think on those conversations and use his thoughts to give herself some direction. I pray that she will be able to hear the whispers of God giving her guidance and strength.

(Psalms 119:28) 28 My soul is weary with sorrow: strengthen me according to your word.

He will give her the strength that she needs and carry her through this awful time.

Again, I am so sorry that you are both feeling the great pain of a great loss. I hope that her life is full of peace and love again soon.

love, t. xoxoooxox

Ronda said...

Although I haven't experienced exactly what you are going through, I can relate as I have been through some extremely heavy stuff in my lifetime. I can say that in the midst of one of the worst times in my life - I received Jesus as Lord and Saviour and it has kept me sane for almost 30 years. When the trials come, I pull out the scripture I lean on most - Proverbs 3:5&6. It says "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. I have tried to hold on to material things after going through a storm and found out that letting go of that and just letting God take it and know whatever comes, He is in control. It is very freeing. Did you know that trees and plants only grow in the dark? That during the daylight they just absorb the light, but in the dark - they begin to grow and flower. Let your times of trouble be something that makes you grow - stronger and more courageous. Let it lead you to your real destiny.

Terra said...

You are much loved and I quote 3 John 2 for you "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers."
I pray for healing for you and for your heart.

Ivy and Elephants said...

I know we are strangers and may never meet, but yet we are still of the same Father. Know that He loves us and will never leave our side. When storms come, He wants us to cling to Him for refuge. Lean on Him,... He will never let you fall.
Blessings,
Patti

NanaDiana said...

I am saying a prayer for you and your friend. After reading the whole story I have a feeling that she might be clinically depressed. When you are in this state you can't see the sunshine, you can't see your way out of the funk you're in and you are not even sure you WANT to find happiness. Please, please, please tell her to seek professional help. There are all sorts of free resources for help for her.

I don't believe that you can help her more than you already have..and if what you have done hasn't helped she nay be reaching a critical stage. One thing you CAN do as her friend might be to use the internet to search out some free help for her in your area. Call the nearest local hospital and tell them what you are trying to do. Look in the yellow page...but GET HELP!

God bless your heart for being the friend you are..and God bless your friend as she goes through this struggle. There is life AFTER tragedy~ xo Diana

BECKY said...

Love your heart, Danielle.

For Danielle's friend...I am praying for you, dear one. I am praying that you don't lose hope. I am praying that God meets you at your point of need and that He will help you to know that He has a purpose for your life, and that He can help you feel whole again. That doesn't mean you will never feel sad again. Give yourself permission to grieve...you are enduring the emotional aftermath of a tragic loss. We can't understand why these things happen. I don't think we will this side of heaven. But know that God knows everything you're dealing with...everything you hold inside, that no one knows but you... and He longs to help you through it all.

You have a wonderful friend in Danielle. Let her listen to you...let her minister to your heart, and surround yourself with people who truly care. You will take little steps day by day, sometimes take 3 and go back two. But just keep stepping.

I lost both of my parents 3 months apart in 2004 and my gut still aches sometimes.

I am praying that God will light your path, and bathe you in His comfort and peace~~that He will meet your financial needs, and meet your deep emotional pain, and help you to just keep stepping.

Hugs to you, friend. May you find the unfathomable love of God, and allow Him to sustain you throughout this most difficult time.
Blessings,
Becky

Esther said...

There is a wonderful book by Harold Kushner called 'When Bad Things Happen To Good People". Kushner addresses in the book one of the principal problems of theodicy, the conundrum of why, if the universe was created and is governed by a God who is of a good and loving nature, there is nonetheless so much suffering and pain in it—essentially, the evidential problem of evil.
The book is dedicated to the memory of his young son, Aaron, who died at age 14 in 1977 of the incurable genetic disease progeria.
It was recommended by a priest to my father after my brother passed away from cancer at 28 years old. My father passed it to me as we were all having a very difficult time dealing with his death. It is a wonderful book!!! I highly recommend it. Hopefully your friend can find some comfort in it.

outjunking said...

You don't see it now and it hurts like hell. But God is moving in your life. I can say this because I've been to that dark place and the pain of wanting to give up. You see 10 years ago my 20 year old son died. You have to hold tight when you think you can't any longer, you are stronger than you know.
Lots of love,
Lisa

sonya said...

Oh, I am praying for you both. My daughter who is 28 years old lost her husband by a tragic accident. It has been such a long, hard road. My daughter has good days and bad. I have learned through our mourning and suffering that reading God's Word (even when we don't feel like it) gives much peace and comfort. And you know what else? Worshiping and praising Him in song. I have done this many, many times and I cannot explain it, because it IS from the Lord only that I find that comfort. As I am lifting my hands up in praise and worship, He is lifting me up into His lap and loving me. Please try this Beloveds. I promise you, it will help. My daughter lost her home because of losing her husband, but now has found another one. She is beginning a new chapter in her life...no not the one she chose, but the one God chose for her.
I am praying for you both. For you dear girl, who lost her husband, you DO have a purpose. You can be a help to someone else who has had that loss.
Prayers and blessings to you,
Sonya

Finding Home said...

I am so sorry for the challenges your friend is going through, they are unimaginable. I wish I had the perfect words, I wish I knew what to say in healing. Anyone who has a friend who cares so deeply for them that they feel their pain, that they reach out for help from others, is an amazing person with many gifts to share with the world. I wish your friend relief in her sorrows and an opportunity to look forward to what the next chapter in her life will be. I will not tell you there is a purpose in her suffering because sometimes things just don't make sense. However I hope through it she finds a stronger relationship with God and with herself. Know that we are all sending out kind words, prayers and encouragement because they are so well deserved. Many blessings, Laura

cathy said...

First to Danielle...I am so blessed to have a friend in you. And I want you to know how much I love you, not just for the wonderful friend you have been, but also for the person you are. You inspire me to be a better person. You truly care about people, you hurt when they hurt, you cry when they cry and not only do you pray for them but you solicit others to pray also.I have been through dark moments in my life as you know, but Bob's death took the wind out of my sail. I kept thinking I just want to be with him because that's where I belong. But I know it's not God's plan for me right now. I will see Bob again one day, when the time is right. I know until that times comes, I will have good days and bad, the tears will come from time to time, and my heart will probably always have a little dull ache. But with your friendship and prayers, I will make it! Thank you so much for caring so deeply for me. That you would ask people to pray for me. You are the best kind of friend a girl could have.

For everyone that has left a note and offered their prayers...THANK YOU. The world is still full of wonderful people with hearts of gold.

Sewn With Grace said...

I cannot begin to fathom what your friend is going through and I certainly can feel your pain as her friend as not knowing how to help her through this most difficult time. I am praying right now and asking, in the name of our Lord, Jesus Christ, through the power of the resurrection of the cross that he would sell her house this week. That he would soften her heart so that she can feel and see the love he has for her and that she would find her purpose in him. I pray that she would seek counseling through her church and not hesitate to confide in those that can help her. I pray that she would make the decision to believe God's promises to those who call on his name. That today she would make a conscious choice to step out in faith and take a hold of this life and live! I pray for you, Danielle, to release much of this to the Lord knowing that you have said and done everything you can. That you will continue to be a listening friend and also one that can push your friend back into the light, back into living again. Ultimately this is her decision. Oh may the Lord bless both of you. May we believe that he can do and he will do. We underestimate the power of our Lord. Don't stop believing!!

Caroline said...

Danielle, First, thank you for stopping by my site and taking the time to comment. I love yours and I'd be glad to link with you if you feel led.
Your heart is breaking. You can hear the pain painted in the words you write about your friend.
These are hard times for so many people, but especially hurtful when we see those we love suffer.
You have done all that any friend can do; pray and ..journey with her in her trial. In my life this is usually where the fair weathered ones take a hike.
Keep bringing her to the feet of the Master...
He is no fair weather friend.
She will be in my prayers...and you as well.

Blessings and +PAX

My Grama's Soul said...

Oh dear Danielle...I'm so very sad your dear friend is in so much distress. Please tell her that "nothing lasts forever" and when one door closes another always opens. Keep offering her a piece of your heart until her heart mends...and tell her to NEVER EVER GIVE UP!!!!

XO

JO

My Blessed Serendipity Life said...

Thank you everyone for all your love, prayers, and support.
I love you!

Danielle

GardenofDaisies said...

All you can do is continue to let her know you care and listen when she wants to talk. She just needs to feel sad for a while, so allow her to do that. She will eventually find a purpose for her life. It's just going to take time.
I just finished reading a good book, "Jantsen's Gift", by Pam Cope, about a woman who lost her son and how she eventually turned her pain and sadness into a desire to help other children.

Santie said...

Danielle, your friend is truly blessed to have such a compassionate, caring friend in you:) I hope that things are looking up for her by now.
For your friend:
Dear unknown Lady
I am sorry you are having such a hard time- please keep in mind that the darkest hour is just before daybreak. I hope that the sun will already be coming through for you, and if not, that better days will come very soon. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Blessed be
Santie